A resolution comes down to three things:
- picking appropriate goal
- committing to achieve them
- handling failure if you do not
A good goal stems from an honest desire for improvement and progress, in whatever context the goal is established. Where one is going must follow a detailed reflection of where one is now and where one has been. This way the goal can be somewhat lofty, but is rooted in experience. Goals should have a mix of the tangible and the intangible. A goal to complete a marathon contains within it both concretely running 26.2 miles at once, as well as coming to believe in oneself, learning about fitness, eating well and countless other subjective benefits gained. There should be check-points along the way - goals within the goal, if you will. This will allow you to track marked progress and be able to adjust accordingly while giving you moments of gratification when the ultimate goal always seems so far away.
Setting the goal gets you on the road, a very important step! But, now, you must walk the road you have laid before yourself. Commitment to achieving goals and sticking to resolutions comes down to the practical and the spiritual. Practically, write down your goals. Seeing something in writing both allows you to externalize it and encounter it in a real way. Keep a log of your progress, including how you worked closer to your goal but also where you may have strayed from the resolution. This way you can track your patterns and habits in order to keep the positive ones and manage the negatives. Find a partner, with goals of their own, to establish solidarity with and to hold each other accountable - teamwork makes the dream work! Beyond the practical, success comes down to one thing - sisu! Purpose, grit, determination, guts, work, focus all combine into sisu; your strength in the face of a seemingly insurmountable challenge. This, beyond all the logs, teammates and self help blogs will help you maximize the person that you can be. A goal, a resolution requires daily diligence, 24-7 commitment to achieving something you never have before. Sisu is the ‘I can’ voice, the get back up on your horse attitude, the rain/snow/sleet/hot/cold/early/late excuse demolisher that hurls you in the direction of your dreams towards the execution of your goals. Resolutions are rarely achieved through momentary instances of super-human power. Rather they are achieved through the daily, very real, power of the human!
People will, however, fall short of their goals - it happens, but creates a wonderful opportunity to learn. An ongoing pattern of challenge and reflection will have an upward slope. Flexibility and reevaluation will mold achievable goals and form confidence through experience. True grit comes from having failed, but then having given it another go. One will find that even if they fell short of their established goal, they will realize the goal all along was to act with resolve, to embody sisu, and in that there can be no failure.
The point of the resolution is to hold yourself accountable to excellence. The world is in desperate need of people with passion, demanding the most out of themselves and driving towards the impossible. So, whatever your resolution is this year - resolve to do it! (SISU dammit!).